So are you saying you prefer a society in which the biggest guy with the swiftest kick or the biggest gun wins? Forget the mind or civility or discussion. Forget diversity, respect, rule of law.
I think history demonstrates that non-violent means is the most productive way of winning equality--examples, MLK and South Africa Aparthoid. Every generation has to battle for freedom over and over again. Now we are struggling with GLBT issues---in the US they are slowly wending their way through the courts on several fronts as well as DADT in the legislative process. That is just as we speak.